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Friday Check-in: Making Peace With Failure - 04/11/2025

Welcome to our weekly Friday Check-in. If you are new to Soul Care, WELCOME!! We are so glad you are here. We have a weekly rhythm of checking in together on Fridays.


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Welcome to our weekly Friday Check-in for April 11th, 2025 ✅

If you are new to Soul Care, WELCOME!! We are so glad you are here. We have a weekly rhythm of checking in together on Fridays. We use Soul Care's Page, Person, Plan framework to create a weekly rhythm and prepare ourselves for Sabbath rest.

Let’s pause and become aware of God’s loving presence... you might light a candle or get in a prayerful posture, and take these next few minutes to become quiet and still.

 

Let's begin with,

Page: An Invitation to Reflection

 
The theme from this month’s Semi-Silent Retreat is “MAKING PEACE WITH FAILURE” and our text is Ezekiel 47. If you’d like to set aside a few hours to retreat with Jesus, you can find this month’s guide HERE. We’ll keep this theme in mind this month as we check in together on Fridays.
 
Today, read or listen to John 11:1-27  three times:
 

A man was sick, Lazarus of Bethany, the town of Mary and her sister Martha. This was the same Mary who massaged the Lord’s feet with aromatic oils and then wiped them with her hair. It was her brother Lazarus who was sick. So the sisters sent word to Jesus, “Master, the one you love so very much is sick.”

When Jesus got the message, he said, “This sickness is not fatal. It will become an occasion to show God’s glory by glorifying God’s Son.”

Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus, but oddly, when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed on where he was for two more days. After the two days, he said to his disciples, “Let’s go back to Judea.”

They said, “Rabbi, you can’t do that. The Jews are out to kill you, and you’re going back?” Jesus replied, “Are there not twelve hours of daylight? Anyone who walks in daylight doesn’t stumble because there’s plenty of light from the sun. Walking at night, he might very well stumble because he can’t see where he’s going.”

He said these things, and then announced, “Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep. I’m going to wake him up.” The disciples said, “Master, if he’s gone to sleep, he’ll get a good rest and wake up feeling fine.” Jesus was talking about death, while his disciples thought he was talking about taking a nap.

Then Jesus became explicit: “Lazarus died. And I am glad for your sakes that I wasn’t there. You’re about to be given new grounds for believing. Now let’s go to him.” That’s when Thomas, the one called the Twin, said to his companions, “Come along. We might as well die with him.”

When Jesus finally got there, he found Lazarus already four days dead. Bethany was near Jerusalem, only a couple of miles away, and many of the Jews were visiting Martha and Mary, sympathizing with them over their brother. Martha heard Jesus was coming and went out to meet him. Mary remained in the house.

Martha said, “Master, if you’d been here, my brother wouldn’t have died. Even now, I know that whatever you ask God he will give you.”

Jesus said, “Your brother will be raised up.”

Martha replied, “I know that he will be raised up in the resurrection at the end of time.”

“You don’t have to wait for the End. I am, right now, Resurrection and Life. The one who believes in me, even though he or she dies, will live. And everyone who lives believing in me does not ultimately die at all. Do you believe this?”

“Yes, Master. All along I have believed that you are the Messiah, the Son of God who comes into the world.” 

 
Spend a few minutes journaling in response to this passage:
  • What stands out to you most? Is there a particular word or phrase?
  • As you read through it a second time… ask God, “to what area of my life does that particular word or phrase connect?”
  • And as you read a third time, be asking God, “Is there an invitation for me?” Is there a response of some kind that God is inviting you into?
Next up is,
Person: An Invitation to Connection

 

This is such a relational text... there are a lot of relational dynamics within the story. Take a minute to get in touch with who you identify most with... and why. Was Lazarus’ death a ‘failure’? Failure is often a deeply relational experience, even when it feels personal. Why? Because our sense of failure usually brushes up against people: expectations we didn’t meet, relationships that didn’t go how we hoped, standards we feel we’ve let others down on. It’s rarely just about what we did—it’s about who we feel we disappointed, or how we see ourselves in relation to others.

Some questions for reflection:
  1. When I feel like I’ve failed, whose voice or opinion weighs heaviest in my heart—and why?
  2. How might embracing grace in my relationships (with others, God, or myself) shift how I see my failures?
  3. What areas of my life or relationships feel “dead” and beyond hope? How might Jesus want to speak life into them?
  4. How does knowing Jesus is - right now - “the resurrection and the life” shape the way I face loss, uncertainty, or the fear of failure?
 
Finally we have,
Plan: An Invitation to Intention
 
How could you be intentional in ‘making peace with failure’ this month?Making peace with failure starts with shifting how you see it—not as the end, but as a teacher. Here are a few ways to be intentional:
 
  1. Name the failure honestly – Don’t sugarcoat it or avoid it. Acknowledge what happened and how it made you feel. Clarity brings peace.
  2. Extract the lesson – Ask, “What did this teach me?” Every failure carries insight, whether about your process, mindset, or values.
  3. Practice self-compassion – Talk to yourself the way you would a close friend. Grace is key to growth.
  4. Reframe your definition of success – Is success only about outcomes, or is it also about courage, learning, and resilience?
  5. Invite God into the narrative – Ask Him what He’s doing through the failure. Often, it’s where He shapes us most.
Today, simply focus on the first prompt. Ask yourself, “What failure am I still carrying that needs reframing?” Spend a few minutes journaling, very honestly, about something that’s happened and how it makes you feel. Ask the Lord to help you name the failure honestly. Allow God’s loving presence to guide your reflections and offer this time of ‘naming’ to the Lord in prayer.
 
Closing Prayer: 
 
“God, help me to see failure not as the end, but as a place where You meet me. Teach me, shape me, and remind me that Your grace holds me even when I fall. Give me peace, courage, and the eyes to see what You’re doing in the middle of it all. Amen.”
 
Thanks for checking in today.
 

Have a blessed Friday,

Team Soul Care

 

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